Prince Harry gilfriend Chelsy hate being in the royal family.

Girl about town: Chelsy Davy enjoys her independence.Trying again: Harry and Chelsy were seen together at a rugby match in November


Festive fun: Prince Harry and Chelsy Davy dressed up as elves for an e-card they sent to hundreds of friends

Royal relationships are a Catch-22. Given the public scrutiny they will face, anyone prepared to go out with a member of the Royal Family invites suspicions of being insane or a sycophant.

And you’d only know that a girl wasn’t crazy (or a sycophant) when she said she didn’t want to measure out her days in photocalls and uptight functions.

It’s this unfortunate dynamic that drives the endlessly ricocheting, on-off-on relationship between Prince Harry and Chelsy Davy. The current status is that the couple are back together and don’t mind who knows it.

Last weekend, they turned up at the final of The X Factor, knowing their presence would be noted by 20million TV viewers.


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They’ve sent out a joint Christmas e-card featuring a video clip of break-dancing elves with the couple’s heads superimposed.

Despite the show of unity, friends say Chelsy’s dread of becoming a fully paid-up member of the Royal Family remains so great that when the prospect is raised, she recoils in horror - as a social climber who bumped into her at a grand party attended by several Windsors recently found to his cost.

He made the mistake of waving his arm about the room full of people dressed in haute couture, drinking champagne.

‘If you wanted, you could have all this for the rest of your life,’ he said. Chelsy’s response was short, fierce and to the point: ‘That’s not the kind of life I want!’

And therein lies the problem. Chelsy’s hatred of the hoop-la that comes with dating Harry was the main reason behind what was supposed to be their split in January, and the couple have come no closer to resolving it.

Zimbabwean-born Chelsy is fiercely independent and has never been remotely clingy - qualities Harry values greatly.

But she has always told friends that she ‘could never, ever see herself as a member of the Royal Family’ and that she ‘really wants’ to go back to Africa at some point. ‘I don’t see my life here.’

So why, after all the tears and agony of the previous break-ups, have they decided to put themselves in this vulnerable position again?

‘You need only to look at photographs of her at home in South Africa, dressed in casual white shorts and flip-flops, suntanned and happy and completely at home in the African Bush, to see the gulf between the free and easy outdoor life she has as Chelsy Davy and the one she would have as Chelsy Wales,’ says a friend.

‘It would be a huge sacrifice to make, and she’s not really that sort of girl. She’s a live-wire who wants to have her own life.’

But no one ever pretended being in love makes for easy decisions. ‘They’re soul mates,’ says another friend. ‘Harry is besotted with her and refused to let her go.’

Perhaps he is mindful that, like his father, he may have been lucky enough to meet the love of his life at a young age. Unlike his father, he does not want to make so many mistakes that he has to wait until he’s nearly 60 to be with her.

Charles was 23 when he met Camilla, but felt he was too young to make a commitment. He ended up pining for her, even through his courtship of Diana.

At 20, Harry was even younger when he met Chelsy in Botswana, but within a few days he was confiding to friends that he had met ‘the most amazing girl’ and was ‘in love’.

Certainly, it’s Harry who has driven the reunion. His strategy has been emotional and determined. He kept in touch with Chelsy’s friends on Facebook and by text.

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‘Everyone was making it sound as if Harry had dumped Chelsy and was having a ball playing the field,’ says a friend.

‘But most of those in the know heard it the other way round: that Harry was taking it quite hard.

‘He was depressed about the bust-up. And he made it clear that he wanted them to get back together. That’s why he made a point of telling her friends how much he missed her.

‘He hoped that the messages would filter back to Chelsy and soften her into changing her mind.’

Another friend adds: ‘He missed her like crazy and couldn’t hide it. He even texted one of Chelsy’s friends to say: “I don’t know when I’ll be in Cape Town again. I lost the best thing that ever happened to me and I’m paying for it.”’

Nonetheless, it took a lot of persuading. Though Chelsy missed him, she relished the anonymity that a few months off the royal radar gave her.

She was also keen to concentrate on her legal studies. Thanks to her love of rowdy nights out, few notice that Chelsy is also very smart.

She passed her legal conversion course at Leeds University with top results and has been taken on as a trainee solicitor by Allen & Overy, the law firm that advised Edward VIII during the abdication.

The partners were particularly impressed with Chelsy’s CV - she studied politics, philosophy and economics in Cape Town.

‘She’s a bright girl and has the perfect background for a firm like ours,’ they say.

During those months apart, Harry and Chelsy enjoyed flings with other people. He had a brief romance with TV presenter Caroline Flack.

Chelsy, for her part, had a string of casual dates, but she was always clear that she wasn’t interested in anything serious, even telling one friend that after all the heartbreak with Harry she wanted to be single for five years.

As for infidelities when the pair were still together, there has been some suggestion that the break-up was precipitated by Harry getting rather too close to other girls.

But, points out someone who knows him well: ‘Harry is incredibly tactile and flirtatious with everyone he knows. It’s just what he’s like - he’s always throwing his arms round people and it doesn’t mean a thing.’

Whether or not anything did go on is a matter that’s hotly debated even among the couple’s closest friends. Those close to Chelsy say she certainly believed Harry did stray and that her fury added momentum to her long-term reservations about the relationship.

‘Chelsy apparently told him to go to hell and shouted that he should have treated her better,’ says a friend. ‘She was determined that she would make a clean break this time and start to get on with the rest of her life.

‘Afterwards, she went on a string of dates with other guys, but the truth is that she, like Harry, shed a lot of tears over the split and never really got him out of her head.

‘Those two seem irresistibly drawn together and make a great couple. They have the best fun together.

‘Chelsy’s no walkover, though. When she did agree to take him back, she read him the riot act - and Harry has been making it up to her ever since.’

And so, tentatively at first, the couple arranged a few clandestine meetings - Harry once even turned up to a club night ‘in disguise’ wearing a black wig so he could spend some time with his ex-girlfriend.

The real rapprochement came in September. Chelsy had recently moved to a two-bedroom, £1.65 million apartment in Belgravia. It was bought for her by her
multi-millionaire father, who has made a fortune organising hunting safaris for wealthy foreign clients in Zimbabwe.

She invited Harry round for dinner on his 25th birthday and, as they always do, the pair got on famously, ending the evening with friends at the Raffles nightclub in Chelsea.

They’ve been an item ever since.

Harry is said to be fiercely proud of Chelsy. He took the opportunity to introduce her to the Queen at Peter Phillips’ wedding last year - a litmus test for any putative Royal bride - and told friends Chelsy had handled the situation immaculately, joking that he thought his grandfather had a twinkle in his eye when he met her, too.

Chelsy won’t spend this Christmas with Harry, who will be at Sandringham for the traditional royal get-together. But he has promised he will escape to see her as soon as he can.

We can reveal he is flying to Mauritius for a New Year holiday with Chelsy and the rest of the Davy clan.

Having recently transferred from Shropshire to the Army Air Corps HQat Middle Wallop, Hampshire, to continue his training as an attack helicopter pilot, he’s in a position to see Chelsy more regularly.

At least for now. Because of the global downturn, Allen & Overy has been offering its future trainee solicitors up to £11,000 to defer their start date for 12 months, and there are rumours that Chelsy might take up this offer and enjoy a globe-trotting sabbatical.

She may be smart, ambitious and educated in Britain - at Cheltenham and Stowe - but no matter the enticements, she never feels able to settle for long here.

It’s not just the cramped lifestyle she hates, but the climate.

Part of Chelsy’s allure is that unlike so many of the girls Harry meets, she doesn’t need him for anything but himself.

Thanks to her father’s wealth, she already enjoys a gilded lifestyle. She has her own social connections - those X Factor tickets, for example, were not supplied by Harry, as many have presumed, but by Chelsy, who was in contact with Simon Cowell.

So, in contrast to Kate Middleton, who found herself socially adrift when she split for a time from Prince William, Chelsy’s world certainly keeps on running whether Harry is there or not.

Also, most British girls, however down to earth they may appear, naturally get excited at the prospect of marrying into the Royal Family.

But Chelsy regards the whole setup as a pain in the neck. These are the things Harry loves about his girlfriend. But they also make the relationship, ultimately, untenable.

No matter how star-crossed these two young lovers believe themselves to be, that is something Harry and Chelsy will have to work out if they’re to enjoy a future together.

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